Relationships of all types were easier for me 50 years ago, when I didn't have an agenda except to follow my enthusiasms for music, humor, intelligence and presence. I wouldn't know where to begin to find new friends nowadays, so I treasure and nurture the ones I still have. That said, it's still a balancing act, staying aware of boundaries, limitations, expectations of and from other people, including friends and family. There are too many con-artists at large - actual human beings as well as "bots" looking to take advantage, which makes dating a bit treacherous. To match up romantically with a person who has similar interests and values seems almost impossible to me now.
Love is transformative, as Ovid showed in his Metamorphoses and Shakespeare dramatized in his early comedies, especially A Midsummer's Dream. "Love Changes Everything" is the title of a song of no particular originality. An inspiring song of the 1970s "If We Only Have Love" claims power to transform human limitations on a worldwide, cosmic scale. So I believe. The Aristotelian based philosophy of Thomas Aquinas gave this definition: the desire to do well to another and see it done. Not exactly thrilling, but basic, a starting point for more. Clearly love means not just thinking, esteeming, but doing for another, or others. The giving sometimes involves sacrifice, harm to oneself or even loss of one's life. Greater love than this no one has than to lay down their life for their friends, says Jesus (John 15:13). Coltrane's "A Love Supreme" can mean, I've done my utmost, there's nothing more that I have. And we respond to love with all we can. We are transformed by love; we'll never be the same, young, old, any age.
Your writing speaks to me clearly. Without hope, we die, even if we're still breathing. Forntunately, as to love at 71 I have my 15 year old son living with me and teaching me more about love than I have ever Known. I wish I could be a paid subscriber to all the substack contributors I follow but if I can rearrange some finances you are at the top of my list. Thank you, always.
Totally in agreement. It's growing together, learning together, staying curious together, and above all, trusting each other to do the right thing by one another!
Relationships of all types were easier for me 50 years ago, when I didn't have an agenda except to follow my enthusiasms for music, humor, intelligence and presence. I wouldn't know where to begin to find new friends nowadays, so I treasure and nurture the ones I still have. That said, it's still a balancing act, staying aware of boundaries, limitations, expectations of and from other people, including friends and family. There are too many con-artists at large - actual human beings as well as "bots" looking to take advantage, which makes dating a bit treacherous. To match up romantically with a person who has similar interests and values seems almost impossible to me now.
Love is transformative, as Ovid showed in his Metamorphoses and Shakespeare dramatized in his early comedies, especially A Midsummer's Dream. "Love Changes Everything" is the title of a song of no particular originality. An inspiring song of the 1970s "If We Only Have Love" claims power to transform human limitations on a worldwide, cosmic scale. So I believe. The Aristotelian based philosophy of Thomas Aquinas gave this definition: the desire to do well to another and see it done. Not exactly thrilling, but basic, a starting point for more. Clearly love means not just thinking, esteeming, but doing for another, or others. The giving sometimes involves sacrifice, harm to oneself or even loss of one's life. Greater love than this no one has than to lay down their life for their friends, says Jesus (John 15:13). Coltrane's "A Love Supreme" can mean, I've done my utmost, there's nothing more that I have. And we respond to love with all we can. We are transformed by love; we'll never be the same, young, old, any age.
Your writing speaks to me clearly. Without hope, we die, even if we're still breathing. Forntunately, as to love at 71 I have my 15 year old son living with me and teaching me more about love than I have ever Known. I wish I could be a paid subscriber to all the substack contributors I follow but if I can rearrange some finances you are at the top of my list. Thank you, always.
Your words mean so much more to me than your money.
Totally in agreement. It's growing together, learning together, staying curious together, and above all, trusting each other to do the right thing by one another!
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